Laurel according to eHarmony
Apr. 20th, 2004 05:47 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sailorhathorNevermind Moosie, I found the personality test there - it was the only test. Heehee. So, not so hard to find. Laurel took the longass test at eHarmony.com and found out a bunch of things I pretty much already knew about me! But it's fun to see how many things a website can get right based on simply clicking a bunch of radio buttons.
If I have a comment to make, it will be in italics.
You respect those who win out against the odds and show persistence. You set high goals for yourself and others.
You don't actively seek out conflict; however, you will confront those who stand between you and what you want to happen.
You can be quite cautious and not trust people you don't know. Once you get to know them you can be warm and disarming. (Oh that's SO me. I will not open up to people unless I know they can accept me for me. If they read my journal and are turned off by what is there, it's better they just go away. I will not let anyone make me feel bad for being who I am.)
You are the type of person who gets things done and gets them done right. Often you can be intense and have a tendency of forcing your way of doing things on others. (Well, if I force, it's not intentional/a conscious act. I rely on people to tell me if I'm being too forceful. If they don't, that's their problem, because I can't read minds.)
In social situations, you prefer variety, adventure and the unusual. You may lose interest if you feel a situation is becoming routine. As a result, you must be kept busy and involved with making things happen.
You can get so involved with an activity that you take charge, and this can frustrate others. You don't mean to take charge, it's just your drive. (Hey, somebody's got to do it. I've found if someone doesn't take charge, everyone just sits around going, "When are we going to get something done?" But this is right - I rarely declare myself the leader. It just happens. Then other leader types come along and go, "How'd SHE get in charge?! When did we let this happen?!" :P Nah, doesn't happen often, but has happened.)
Some see you as cautious, but once you decide upon an action you can be direct and demanding.
You have a natural enthusiasm for the activities you prefer. Because of your enthusiasm, you may forget that others have different wants and needs. (Again, not a mind reader! ;D)
You have a high interest in the new, the unusual and the adventurous. You may also be curious and have a wide range of interests, preferring an ever-changing environment. (Ohhhh yeah, ME. I'm all over the map in my interests.)
You will take issue and not shy away from confrontation when others disagree with how you feel or think. (I don't like the way they worded that. Yeah, if someone tells me what I think or feel is *wrong,* I will bitch back at them. But it's perfectly okay with me if people disagree with me, so long as they respect my right to have a different opinion.)
Your primary social strategy is making things happen and happen now. Usually very active, you thrive on challenge. When the going gets tough, you get going.
You are tenacious and will make things happen even when faced with many obstacles.
Not having a climate of challenges and competition may cause you to create such a climate. You perform best under pressure, and may assume that others want the same... your assumption is not always true. (I don't like the way this one is worded either. I do not actively seek out competition with other people, not in the way people usually do. Like, I don't go, "Bring it ooooon!" and force people to compete with me when they don't want to. However, I do like to bring out the best in other people by challenging them to change my mind. I like inspiring people to create. I would much rather work with someone and be their pal than actively try to "one up" them. Any competition between myself and another person is mostly internal; it doesn't really affect them as much as it affects me.)
You are active in the things you do and in your communication. Your rapid mental activity becomes apparent when, rather than listening to others, you will be thinking of what you might say next. (Pffft, that sounds so funny. XD If this is true, I'm totally not conscious of it. I know I often think of things I would like to talk about while I am talking to someone, but I do think I listen to others too. I try to wait my turn.)
Having a variety of results at stake brings out the best in you. Your great strength is in directing yourself and others toward specific activities results.
Your high ego traits coupled with impatience may have others read you as arrogant at times. This is only appreciated by others when they understand that you need quick results, challenges and competition. (FffTUNG! Pegged me! I have been called arrogant by people who didn't know me well, or simply didn't like the negative criticism I gave their project. But I think once people get to know me, they find that I'm not arrogant, but confident in my creative endeavors. I pretty much expect that if someone is going to do something, they should do it well and in a timely manner, or I do get impatient with their ability to ever do it at all. I've seen too many people take interest in something, do a little work, then slack off until they just give it up; you get impatient with this pattern after awhile.)
You have a natural competitive style. It is important for you to feed that competitive spirit, while also showing more patience with those who choose not to be so competitive. (EHarmony is awfully obsessive about this competition thing. I'm not sure that that's the right word for it. If I'm passionate about something, I like to get things done, instead of waiting around for someone else to do it. I don't see how it benefits a project for me to slow down for the people who either don't have the time to keep up or refuse to make that time. I'm not trying to make them feel bad. I just want to get the job done. I'd much rather inspire them to work too than make them feel inadequate, but that's really up to them, isn't it? I can't control other people's feelings. The way I feel about it, if someone has a family and a job and can't make much time to help with something, they should be appreciative of my efforts instead of bitching about how I'm leaving them behind, and help when they can.)
You may lack empathy and hurt the feelings of others without realizing it--this is not intentional. (Of course... if I was intentionally hurting someone, that'd be pretty evil. But, isn't this pretty much true of everyone?)
Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Take your time and proceed slowly.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Be ready at the exact time. (ARRRGH SUCH a pet peeve of mine. If you say you can meet the deadline, don't disappear off the face of the Earth when the deadline comes around, then come back several days later with your tail between your legs, all apologetic and expect everything to be okay. Just tell me the truth from the beginning!! Or keep me informed along the way so I understand that you are working on it. At least then I know it's important to ya!)
Provide questions and choices for making decisions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Use a thoughtful approach.
Approach in an honest, sincere manner.
Prepare for demanding questions, and perhaps objections.
If you agree, follow through with your end of the agreement. (ARRRRRGH yesyesyesyes!! I hate getting involved on a project with someone where they make all these promises and blow smoke about all the things they will do and help with, and then they do practically nothing! It's so frustrating.)
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree. (YES. Another big pet peeve. Everyone screws up at times. It doesn't necessarily mean they are stupid or worthless if they mess up once or twice. The important thing is, are they reliable most of the time.)
Next category:
You are good at making certain that even small details are taken care of.
You like to take the initiative when something needs to be done.
You like to initiate new activities.
Like games of competition and skill. (I guess this answer comes from the "Do you like board games?" question??)
You tend to be tenacious about solving problems, not liking to give up until something is resolved.
You generally don't like to back away from a challenge.
You generally take pride in being a strong community member.
You tend to be very goal-oriented.
You tend to have very high values.
You are skilled at finding practical solutions to complicated situations.
You may want:
An audience to perform to and entertain. (::Tap Dances::)
A support system to help you get things done. (Yeeeeeeees!! I don't mind doing most of the work as long as people who would like to be involved show me their support!! That they do care. When I put something out there and I get zero response, it's very discouraging.)
Freedom from many rules and regulations and the ability to write your own rules. (YEEEEEEES!! Attica, Attica, Attica! I've run into this so many times. People telling me, "You can't do _____ with ______, it's traditionally done this way." So?! "But (insert name of popular person here) does it this way." So?! "Don't you want to duplicate previous successes?" NO! I want to do it my way! I want to take a chance! That doesn't mean I won't respect the correct way, but often you can do something new and interesting without going about it the usual, typical way and still respect tradition. I'm not going to do something the way someone else did it just because they've enjoyed some popularity. Where would we be if everyone thought that way?)
Partners who practice listening and participation.
Social recognition of your accomplishments. (Oh yeah, I admit it - I do like praise. I need to hear a few nice things from a few people on my writing/websites/other creative junk. Don't need gushing, just need acknowledgement.)
No close supervision--you don't want people to hang over your shoulder.
Recognition of skills and ability.
Excitement and variety of activities.
An outlet to vent your emotions frequently.
Acceptance in a variety of groups. (Probably why I'm active in such a mish-mash of fandoms.)
Popularity. (Eh, this is only so important. It'd be nice to be popular, but then again, the popular fandom people are the ones who get constantly ripped off. That would get to me, if I was ripped off as much as Janelle Jimenez or the chick from sailororion.net, because they rarely get credit for the rip-offs they inspire.)
Freedom from many controls and limitations of creativity. (Goes back to what I said a few comments back.)
Wow, I really rambled on. :D To anyone reading this: Please do not read these comments and go, "Oh my God, I've done that. Laurel is bitching about ME!" because you may very well be making an incorrect assumption. I'd rather you ask me if you're worried about it. I'm thinking of various incidents that have happened to me over many years in my bitching here. Heh.
And there's a whole aspect of my personality that doesn't seem to be represented in these results at all. Where's the playful, silly Laurel? It's all about goals and competition. Someone reading this might think I'm a tight-assed workaholic. Pbbbbt.
If I have a comment to make, it will be in italics.
You respect those who win out against the odds and show persistence. You set high goals for yourself and others.
You don't actively seek out conflict; however, you will confront those who stand between you and what you want to happen.
You can be quite cautious and not trust people you don't know. Once you get to know them you can be warm and disarming. (Oh that's SO me. I will not open up to people unless I know they can accept me for me. If they read my journal and are turned off by what is there, it's better they just go away. I will not let anyone make me feel bad for being who I am.)
You are the type of person who gets things done and gets them done right. Often you can be intense and have a tendency of forcing your way of doing things on others. (Well, if I force, it's not intentional/a conscious act. I rely on people to tell me if I'm being too forceful. If they don't, that's their problem, because I can't read minds.)
In social situations, you prefer variety, adventure and the unusual. You may lose interest if you feel a situation is becoming routine. As a result, you must be kept busy and involved with making things happen.
You can get so involved with an activity that you take charge, and this can frustrate others. You don't mean to take charge, it's just your drive. (Hey, somebody's got to do it. I've found if someone doesn't take charge, everyone just sits around going, "When are we going to get something done?" But this is right - I rarely declare myself the leader. It just happens. Then other leader types come along and go, "How'd SHE get in charge?! When did we let this happen?!" :P Nah, doesn't happen often, but has happened.)
Some see you as cautious, but once you decide upon an action you can be direct and demanding.
You have a natural enthusiasm for the activities you prefer. Because of your enthusiasm, you may forget that others have different wants and needs. (Again, not a mind reader! ;D)
You have a high interest in the new, the unusual and the adventurous. You may also be curious and have a wide range of interests, preferring an ever-changing environment. (Ohhhh yeah, ME. I'm all over the map in my interests.)
You will take issue and not shy away from confrontation when others disagree with how you feel or think. (I don't like the way they worded that. Yeah, if someone tells me what I think or feel is *wrong,* I will bitch back at them. But it's perfectly okay with me if people disagree with me, so long as they respect my right to have a different opinion.)
Your primary social strategy is making things happen and happen now. Usually very active, you thrive on challenge. When the going gets tough, you get going.
You are tenacious and will make things happen even when faced with many obstacles.
Not having a climate of challenges and competition may cause you to create such a climate. You perform best under pressure, and may assume that others want the same... your assumption is not always true. (I don't like the way this one is worded either. I do not actively seek out competition with other people, not in the way people usually do. Like, I don't go, "Bring it ooooon!" and force people to compete with me when they don't want to. However, I do like to bring out the best in other people by challenging them to change my mind. I like inspiring people to create. I would much rather work with someone and be their pal than actively try to "one up" them. Any competition between myself and another person is mostly internal; it doesn't really affect them as much as it affects me.)
You are active in the things you do and in your communication. Your rapid mental activity becomes apparent when, rather than listening to others, you will be thinking of what you might say next. (Pffft, that sounds so funny. XD If this is true, I'm totally not conscious of it. I know I often think of things I would like to talk about while I am talking to someone, but I do think I listen to others too. I try to wait my turn.)
Having a variety of results at stake brings out the best in you. Your great strength is in directing yourself and others toward specific activities results.
Your high ego traits coupled with impatience may have others read you as arrogant at times. This is only appreciated by others when they understand that you need quick results, challenges and competition. (FffTUNG! Pegged me! I have been called arrogant by people who didn't know me well, or simply didn't like the negative criticism I gave their project. But I think once people get to know me, they find that I'm not arrogant, but confident in my creative endeavors. I pretty much expect that if someone is going to do something, they should do it well and in a timely manner, or I do get impatient with their ability to ever do it at all. I've seen too many people take interest in something, do a little work, then slack off until they just give it up; you get impatient with this pattern after awhile.)
You have a natural competitive style. It is important for you to feed that competitive spirit, while also showing more patience with those who choose not to be so competitive. (EHarmony is awfully obsessive about this competition thing. I'm not sure that that's the right word for it. If I'm passionate about something, I like to get things done, instead of waiting around for someone else to do it. I don't see how it benefits a project for me to slow down for the people who either don't have the time to keep up or refuse to make that time. I'm not trying to make them feel bad. I just want to get the job done. I'd much rather inspire them to work too than make them feel inadequate, but that's really up to them, isn't it? I can't control other people's feelings. The way I feel about it, if someone has a family and a job and can't make much time to help with something, they should be appreciative of my efforts instead of bitching about how I'm leaving them behind, and help when they can.)
You may lack empathy and hurt the feelings of others without realizing it--this is not intentional. (Of course... if I was intentionally hurting someone, that'd be pretty evil. But, isn't this pretty much true of everyone?)
Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Motivate and persuade by referring to objectives and RESULTS.
Take your time and proceed slowly.
Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
Be ready at the exact time. (ARRRGH SUCH a pet peeve of mine. If you say you can meet the deadline, don't disappear off the face of the Earth when the deadline comes around, then come back several days later with your tail between your legs, all apologetic and expect everything to be okay. Just tell me the truth from the beginning!! Or keep me informed along the way so I understand that you are working on it. At least then I know it's important to ya!)
Provide questions and choices for making decisions.
Present ideas logically--be efficient.
Use a thoughtful approach.
Approach in an honest, sincere manner.
Prepare for demanding questions, and perhaps objections.
If you agree, follow through with your end of the agreement. (ARRRRRGH yesyesyesyes!! I hate getting involved on a project with someone where they make all these promises and blow smoke about all the things they will do and help with, and then they do practically nothing! It's so frustrating.)
Take issue with the facts, not the person, if you disagree. (YES. Another big pet peeve. Everyone screws up at times. It doesn't necessarily mean they are stupid or worthless if they mess up once or twice. The important thing is, are they reliable most of the time.)
Next category:
You are good at making certain that even small details are taken care of.
You like to take the initiative when something needs to be done.
You like to initiate new activities.
Like games of competition and skill. (I guess this answer comes from the "Do you like board games?" question??)
You tend to be tenacious about solving problems, not liking to give up until something is resolved.
You generally don't like to back away from a challenge.
You generally take pride in being a strong community member.
You tend to be very goal-oriented.
You tend to have very high values.
You are skilled at finding practical solutions to complicated situations.
You may want:
An audience to perform to and entertain. (::Tap Dances::)
A support system to help you get things done. (Yeeeeeeees!! I don't mind doing most of the work as long as people who would like to be involved show me their support!! That they do care. When I put something out there and I get zero response, it's very discouraging.)
Freedom from many rules and regulations and the ability to write your own rules. (YEEEEEEES!! Attica, Attica, Attica! I've run into this so many times. People telling me, "You can't do _____ with ______, it's traditionally done this way." So?! "But (insert name of popular person here) does it this way." So?! "Don't you want to duplicate previous successes?" NO! I want to do it my way! I want to take a chance! That doesn't mean I won't respect the correct way, but often you can do something new and interesting without going about it the usual, typical way and still respect tradition. I'm not going to do something the way someone else did it just because they've enjoyed some popularity. Where would we be if everyone thought that way?)
Partners who practice listening and participation.
Social recognition of your accomplishments. (Oh yeah, I admit it - I do like praise. I need to hear a few nice things from a few people on my writing/websites/other creative junk. Don't need gushing, just need acknowledgement.)
No close supervision--you don't want people to hang over your shoulder.
Recognition of skills and ability.
Excitement and variety of activities.
An outlet to vent your emotions frequently.
Acceptance in a variety of groups. (Probably why I'm active in such a mish-mash of fandoms.)
Popularity. (Eh, this is only so important. It'd be nice to be popular, but then again, the popular fandom people are the ones who get constantly ripped off. That would get to me, if I was ripped off as much as Janelle Jimenez or the chick from sailororion.net, because they rarely get credit for the rip-offs they inspire.)
Freedom from many controls and limitations of creativity. (Goes back to what I said a few comments back.)
Wow, I really rambled on. :D To anyone reading this: Please do not read these comments and go, "Oh my God, I've done that. Laurel is bitching about ME!" because you may very well be making an incorrect assumption. I'd rather you ask me if you're worried about it. I'm thinking of various incidents that have happened to me over many years in my bitching here. Heh.
And there's a whole aspect of my personality that doesn't seem to be represented in these results at all. Where's the playful, silly Laurel? It's all about goals and competition. Someone reading this might think I'm a tight-assed workaholic. Pbbbbt.
